A Bad Mouth and a Bad Ear



By Nick Bibile



Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour.” — Exodus 20:16


The Ninth Commandment teaches us to love and protect the reputation of our neighbor. Just as we are forbidden to steal his property or harm his body, we are also forbidden to unjustly damage his good name.

Scripture reminds us:

A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.” — Proverbs 22:1
Jesus said, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. You shall love your neighbor as yourself. (Matthew 22:39)

A person's reputation is a precious gift from God. It takes years to build and only moments to destroy. Therefore, love for our neighbor includes guarding his name, speaking truthfully about him, and refusing to spread anything that would unjustly bring him harm.

Falsehood, jealousy, envy, and malice are enemies of brotherly love. When we speak falsely against another person, we do not merely injure them—we sin against God, wound the church, and weaken the bonds that hold society together.

To bear false witness is to speak contrary to the truth. The tongue was created to praise God, encourage others, and proclaim righteousness. Yet because of sin, it has become one of man's most dangerous weapons.

Falsehood often enters quietly. It may come through exaggeration, selective reporting, twisting words, withholding important facts, or adding details that were never spoken. While no person can perfectly remember every conversation, it is sinful to distort the meaning of another person's words in order to make them appear guilty or foolish.

Thy tongue deviseth mischiefs; like a sharp razor, working deceitfully.” — Psalm 52:2
James chapter 3 speaks on taming the tongue. James 3:-9 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. 9 With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God.

Sins of the Tongue

1. Slandering and Backbiting

The scorpion carries its poison in its tail; the slanderer carries it in his tongue.

Slander is a false and malicious report spoken to damage another person's reputation. It seeks to lower a person in the eyes of others and often springs from envy, bitterness, pride, or hatred.

False witnesses did rise up; they laid to my charge things that I knew not.” — Psalm 35:11

The Scriptures are filled with examples of godly people who suffered from false accusations.

Jeremiah's enemies plotted against him and spoke evil of him (Jeremiah 18:18). John the Baptist was accused of having a devil (Matthew 11:18). Our Lord Jesus Christ was falsely called a glutton, a drunkard, and a friend of sinners (Matthew 11:19). At His trial, false witnesses were brought forward to condemn Him (Matthew 26:59-61).

Backbiting is closely related to slander. It is speaking evil of someone behind his back when he is absent and unable to defend himself.

The wounds caused by backbiting often cut deeper than physical injuries because they attack a person's character and reputation.

Joseph suffered through the false accusations of Potiphar's wife (Genesis 39:17-20). David endured many slanderous attacks from Saul and his followers (1 Samuel 18:22; Psalm 31:13).

The Ninth Commandment also condemns sinful suspicion. We sin when we assume the worst about others without evidence, spread rumors, or judge motives that only God can truly know.

Love does not rush to condemn. Love seeks facts. Love believes the best where there is no clear proof of wrongdoing.

Instead of slander, Scripture teaches us to deal with concerns directly, honestly, and lovingly. Truth should be spoken face to face, with humility and a sincere desire for restoration.

Speaking the truth in love.” — Ephesians 4:15

2. Talebearing and Gossip

Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people.” — Leviticus 19:16

A talebearer carries stories from one person to another. As the story travels, details are often exaggerated, altered, and embellished until the final version scarcely resembles the truth.

The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.” — Proverbs 26:22

Gossip appeals to the sinful heart because it entertains curiosity, feeds pride, and makes us feel important. Yet it destroys friendships, divides families, and weakens churches.

There are always two participants in gossip:

Without willing listeners, gossip quickly dies.

The one who eagerly receives slander becomes a partner in the sin. The listener encourages the speaker and helps spread the poison.

A godly ear refuses to entertain evil reports without necessity and evidence. The righteous person does not delight in hearing shameful stories about others.

The backbiter has the devil's tongue; the willing listener has the devil's ear.

When gossip begins, wisdom changes the subject, questions the evidence, or lovingly refuses to participate.

Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.” — Proverbs 26:20

3. Lying and False Witness

At its heart, bearing false witness is lying.

Lying lips are abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly are his delight.” — Proverbs 12:22

Lying stands in direct opposition to God's character. God is truth itself. He cannot lie.

In hope of eternal life, which God, that cannot lie, promised before the world began.” — Titus 1:2

Jesus identified Satan as the ultimate source of lies:

When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.” — John 8:44

From the beginning, lies have brought destruction. Cain attempted to hide his guilt (Genesis 4:9). Ananias and Sapphira lied to God and the church (Acts 5:1-10). False witnesses sought to condemn Christ (Matthew 26:59-61), and false accusations were brought against Paul (Acts 24:5).

Today, people still lie for money, influence, convenience, self-protection, or personal advantage. Yet God's warning remains unchanged:

A false witness shall not be unpunished, and he that speaketh lies shall not escape.” — Proverbs 19:5

Practical Applications

1. Stand for the Truth

Christians are called not merely to avoid falsehood but to defend truth and protect the reputation of others.

Jonathan courageously defended David even when his own father sought David's life.

Let not the king sin against his servant, against David.” — 1 Samuel 19:4

When others are falsely accused, we should speak truthfully and fairly. Love does not rejoice in evil reports.

Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.” — 1 Corinthians 13:6

2. Practice Biblical Correction

When a brother or sister sins, God has provided a proper method for correction.

Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone.” — Matthew 18:15

Christ's pattern is simple:

  1. Go privately.

  2. Bring one or two witnesses if necessary.

  3. Involve the church only when required.

(Matthew 18:15-20)

This approach protects reputations, minimizes unnecessary exposure, and seeks restoration rather than humiliation.

Gossip tears down. Biblical correction seeks to heal.

3. Live a Holy Life

He that walketh uprightly, and worketh righteousness, and speaketh the truth in his heart. He that backbiteth not with his tongue.” — Psalm 15:2-3

Our speech reveals the condition of our hearts.

Jesus said:

Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.” — Matthew 12:34

A corrupt tongue reveals an unclean heart. A gracious tongue reveals a heart transformed by God's grace.

The gospel not only forgives sinful speech—it changes the speaker.

4. Guard Your Tongue

I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue.” — Psalm 39:1

The tongue is often quickest to sin when we are angry, offended, proud, or hurt.

How many friendships have been destroyed by one careless sentence? How many churches have been divided by a few reckless words?

Consider the example of Christ.

When He was falsely accused, mocked, beaten, and reviled, He did not respond with sinful speech.

Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again.” — 1 Peter 2:23

Victory over the tongue begins with victory in the heart. When the heart is governed by Christ, the tongue increasingly comes under His control.

5. Watch and Pray

Recognizing our weakness should drive us to prayer.

David prayed:

Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.” — Psalm 141:3

This should be the daily prayer of every believer.

The tongue is slippery, powerful, and dangerous. Without God's grace, we easily fall into gossip, criticism, exaggeration, harsh speech, and falsehood.

When anger rises, pray.

When gossip is offered, pray.

When words are ready to wound, pray.

When tempted to repeat an unverified story, pray.

God alone can place a guard over our lips.

Final Thought

A bad mouth and a bad ear reveal a heart that is not governed by truth.

But when God transforms the heart, He transforms the speech. The believer begins to use his words not to destroy but to build, not to wound but to heal, not to spread falsehood but to proclaim truth.

May we be people whose tongues honor God, whose ears refuse gossip, and whose words reflect the character of Christ.

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying.” — Ephesians 4:29

Let us not be instruments of deceit, but vessels of truth, grace, and love.