Abiding in Christ Jesus


Part Six

By Nick Bibile

John 15:12“This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.”


In this passage, we will consider the importance and meaning of Christ’s command, the nature of His love toward believers, how it differs from the love of unbelievers, the reason for this command, and some of the key elements of true Christian love.


The Authority Behind the Command

Can you give a command to your teacher, your boss, or your parents? Certainly not. Yet they can give commands to you. Why? Because they possess authority over you.

In the same way, Christ—the Commander and Chief—gives commands to His people. Parents have authority because they raised you and cared for you. But Christ’s authority is far greater—He created you.

Colossians 1:16“For by him were all things created…”

Therefore, when Christ gives a command, it is not optional. Whether we feel like it or not, we are called to obey. Even demons and nature obey Him—how much more should believers?

His command is simple yet profound: “Love one another as I have loved you.”


A New Commandment?

Jesus repeats this command:

John 13:34“A new commandment I give unto you…”

Does “new” mean something entirely unheard of? No. It means newly emphasized, freshly revealed, and more clearly explained.

The principle was already present:

Leviticus 19:18“Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.”
1 John 2:7“…no new commandment… but an old commandment…”

What is new is the standard: “as I have loved you.”

This is not a one-time act. The tense implies continuous action—keep on loving one another.


The Measure of Christ’s Love

Christ’s love is immeasurable. The greatest expression of it is this:

John 15:13“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”

John 10:15“…I lay down my life for the sheep.”

Because He loved us this way, we are commanded to love one another:

1 John 4:11“Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.”

This is not a suggestion—it is a mandate.


What Kind of Love?

This love is not:

It is agape love—sacrificial, self-giving, unconditional love.


The Difference from the World’s Love

Unbelievers also show forms of love. They form groups, help one another, and show kindness. But their love is often:

Matthew 6:1 warns against doing good for public praise.

Christian love, by contrast, is:


Why This Command Was Given

Christ is the vine; believers are the branches. We are connected and dependent on one another to bear fruit.

He is also the Head, and the Church is His body.

1 Corinthians 12 teaches that:

Just as the human body functions as one, so must the church.

Think of an airplane with millions of parts—no single part flies alone. Every part works together. In the same way, the church must function in unity.


Practical Implications

If a visitor comes to church and is ignored or judged based on appearance, how can we win that soul to Christ?

James 2:3–5 condemns partiality.

If a new believer struggles and we reject or speak against them, we may cause them to stumble.

1 John 3:15Hatred is equated with murder.
Luke 17:1–2 – Causing others to stumble brings serious warning.

This is serious. Love is not optional—it reveals whether we truly walk in the light.


One Family, One Responsibility

We belong to one family:

If we cannot practice this love here, we are not prepared for heaven.

We are called to:

Ephesians 4:15–16 – The body grows by building itself up in love.


The Pattern of Christ’s Love

Christ’s love is:

1 John 3:16“…we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.”

He lived not for Himself, but for others. That is agape love.


Ingredients of Agape Love

1. Humility

Jesus washed His disciples’ feet:

John 13:14–15

True love requires humility. Pride prevents sacrificial love. Christ showed us how to stoop low to serve others.


2. Hospitality

1 Peter 4:8–9

Hospitality means welcoming and caring for others without expecting anything in return.

True love gives the best—not leftovers. It serves with sincerity, not appearance.


3. Giving to the Needy

Love is demonstrated through action.

Acts 2:44–45
Acts 4:32

The early church shared what they had because their hearts were united.

James 2:15–17 – Faith without works is dead.
1 John 3:17–18 – Love must be in deed and truth.

True giving is:


The Evidence of True Love

This kind of love is the result of regeneration.

1 John 4:7–8 – Love proves we are born of God.
1 John 3:14 – Loving the brethren shows we have passed from death to life.


Final Exhortation

Do you see the message clearly?

We are one family in Christ. His command is not optional. We are to love one another as He loved us—sacrificially, humbly, and sincerely.

If we abide in Christ, this love will be evident in our lives.

Let us not love in word only, but in deed and in truth.